I have a friend who we are best friends or were. She got married this year and I was supposed to be her bridesmaid. Unfortunately due to my op I had to give her back word. The wedding was 3 weeks after my op. I texted her and wished her good luck and messaged her a lot prior to the wedding. I knew she was busy but she never came to see how I was after my op and still hasn’t been to see me despite moving 5 minutes down the road.

I have been upset as I now realise that our friendship was one sided. I always went to her house and was the one who put all the effort in. It’s very sad as she have been friends since we were 18. We did lose touch for 10 years in between. She also has become very money orientated. Her husband is very much like this and she was never like this before. I do not care about money and what anyone has does not interest me in the slightest.

It takes an illness or hard times in your life to realise who your friends are.